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Premature Ejaculation: Symptoms, Causes and Cures
Premature ejaculation (PE) is the most widespread male sexual dysfunction, and regrettably the least treated. The simple reason why this male sexual dysfunction remains the least treated is "shame" or ‘embarrassment’ and those who suffer or have suffered PE, know it's true. While some men face premature ejaculation at 25, others at 40 and there arean unfortunate few who face it even later. Sadly enough, premature ejaculation is a sexual disorder that is preventable as well as curable provided you have the right information and get the correct treatment such as the newly developed magic medication Dapoxetine. It needs to be emphasized that premature ejaculation is a dysfunction, not a disease or a malformation of any kind. However, there are very rare cases of neurological disorders that could cause PE.
What is Premature Ejaculation?
Many scientists define premature ejaculation as "a stage when a man ejaculates before a certain period of time". Another group of experts define premature ejaculation as a medical problem when a man ejaculates within two minutes of penetration. However, this seems to be amusing as well as absurd. In fact, some experts are of the view that a more precise definition of premature ejaculation would be "a male sexual dysfunction in which men are not able to identify or control the different stages of sexual arousal making them ejaculate involuntaril". Actually, premature ejaculation has very negative consequences on those who suffer it and some of them include, low self esteem, marital problems, frustration, avoidance of sexual intimacy and so on.
Types of Premature Ejaculation-
Primarily, there are two types of premature ejaculation – primary and secondary. Primary premature ejaculation denotes that the man identified the sexual dysfunction as early as he attainted sexual maturity. On the other hand, secondary premature ejaculation is a condition that occurs later in life when a man has already had normal sex life and a satisfactory level of ejaculatory control.
Scientific Reasons for Premature Ejaculation-
Over the years, scientists have tried to fathom if there is any organic disorder behind this male sexual dysfunction, but have met with no success. Basically, premature ejaculation is deemed to be a psychological problem in most cases. For men who have never had sexual intercourse before, anticipation or anxiety may be present and this could definitely lead to a premature ejaculation.In the case of most young men who are about to have a first sexual experience have deep anxiety regarding sex as they have planned it for a long time before it actually occurs. Distressing incidents from the past can also affect man’s aptitude to have a normal sexual experience. This could be owing to family incest, sexual assault, conflict with one or both parents and several other causes from the past.
However, men suffering from secondary premature ejaculation have different problems. Mostly, psychological troubles like anxiety, depression and other factors that can affect mental and emotional health are to be blamed for the ejaculation problems. The most common problems faced by middle aged men are financial, related to work or sometimes even avoiding unwanted pregnancy might be the cause for secondary premature ejaculation.In addition to these psychological problems leading to premature ejaculation, there are numerous medical conditions that can really influence a man’s ability to control his ejaculation. Some of these disorders include:
- Multiple sclerosis,
- Extreme sensitivity of the penis,
- Injury to the nerves, and
- Other neurological problems
Remedial Approaches-
There are several remedial approaches, including behavioral therapy as well as medications, aimed at curing premature ejaculation and a few of them can really help a man. These include sexual behavioral treatment, the squeeze method, stop-and-start method, adopting different sex positions, psychotherapy, using desensitizing creams and pharmaceutical medications, such as Dapoxetine or Priligy.
Sexual Behavioral Therapy
In most cases, the primary premature ejaculation treatment includes relieving any basic performance pressure or anxiety in the male. During the last few years, there has been an improvement in sexual behavioral therapy and sexologists often advise numerous ‘exercises’ to improve a man’s ability to control his ejaculation. One of the most common methods is considered to be masturbation. When a person masturbates about 2.5 hours before the sexual intercourse, it will help him to have a stronger and long-lasting erection as well as a delayed ejaculation. Another interesting technique known as “The stop-and-start technique” to treat premature ejaculation is based on the practice of taking a break just before reaching the orgasm. It is also one of the most effective methods.
The Squeeze Method
The ‘Squeeze method’ is also a very common treatment for premature ejaculation and is akin to “The stop-and-start method” with one difference. When a person feels that he is about to have an orgasm he should try squeezing the tip of his penis with a thumb and index finger for several seconds. Then, he should continue with sexual intercourse. This will help the individual to delay the ejaculation and have a satisfactory sexual experience.
Sex Positions
Adapting the right position during sexual intercourse may also help to overcome the problem of premature ejaculation. Many experts recommend practicing the ‘lower sex position’ whenever possible as this helps the man to relax as well as lessen the sensitivity in his penis a little.
Desensitizing Creams
Apart from the behavioral methods to lessen the sensitivity of penis, there are also some artificial, but equally effective ways to treat premature ejaculation. Desensitizing creams, topical anesthetic creams containing Lidocaine and Prilocaine that are made to reduce the sensations felt by men during intercourse and numb the penis to some extent or even a simple use of condoms also lessen the amount of stimulation and helps a man to ‘last longer’.
